Arguably one of the most widely read writers in English literature, Jane Austen has become almost iconic for her works of romantic fiction. She is the genius behind ‘Sense & Sensibility’,‘Pride & Prejudice’ and ‘Emma’, and, even to this day, her novels are a key component of English literature syllabuses across the world – and now too, on the Affordable Bankruptcy Courses blog ;).
Have you read Pride & Prejudice? If not, then we would definitely recommend it. It is a classic; a love story centered on societal differences and how true love always prevails. In her novel, Austen teaches us the valuable difference between vanity and pride – “Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us” – and the importance of knowing this distinction. During a time as difficult as filing for bankruptcy, there is no scope to waste energy worrying how others perceive us, even though the temptation to do so may be overwhelming. At the end of the day, as long as you survive the experience and recover from it – keeping your ‘pride’– then what does it matter what other people think? Use bankruptcy as your opportunity for growth. If the opinions of others really are important to you, then twist things around. Show people how you can bounce back when life throws obstacles your way.
Austen wisely wrote, “Angry people are not always wise.” In saying this, she means that a decision made in the heat of anger is rarely the right one. Do not act rashly, in the heat of the moment. Perhaps it was impulsive purchasing behavior that caused your financial struggles in the first place – or perhaps not? Either way, you are bound to feel anger and frustration as you come to terms with filing for bankruptcy, but acting based on these emotions is never a good idea. Make sensible, rational decisions when you are feeling calm. Take the first steps and sign up for the Credit Counseling and Debtor Education required for filing, and watch your life change for the better.
“I may have lost my heart, but not my self-control.” When you are experiencing a moment of sadness, losing that bright, happy spark that all your friends and family know and love you for – stop. All is not lost. You may have ‘lost’ this particular battle with your money, but you have not lost the financial war. You still have many other endearing qualities, and self-control can be one of them. Use this experience to bounce back. Get yourself on your feet and start saving, budgeting, and rebuilding for your future.
In doing this, you are proving to yourself just how strong and resilient you can be when times are tough. “Till this moment I never knew myself.” What have you learned from the bankruptcy process? Has it shown you a side of yourself that you never previously knew existed? Sometimes it takes a life-changing experience such as bankruptcy, to teach you more about yourself, your strengths and your capabilities. And that notion alone may be that small – but bright – light at the end of your financial tunnel. Head towards it, and change your life for the better.